Over the last few days I have
been thinking deeply about the rules we make in our lives, our own moral code
of conduct. What is right? Who we should speak with? Why? What should be our
environment like? What programs on TV our kids need to watch? How should we
approach and manage relationships (that are naturally complex!)? etc etc…
I was watching a complicated Bollywood
flick that opened my eyes to this fact! Right and wrong is so dependent on the
perspective of the person looking at the situation. It’s all so true and so
relative, this right and wrong. And isn’t life relative? Why then are we so
firm on our rights and wrongs in life? More importantly, in all our
relationships, we impose our rights and wrongs on somebody else who may never
see something the way we see them!
We may often have a knowing of
this at the gut level. But how many of us actually respect this for what it is
and not impose it on others? Why should everybody else live on the rules we
create for them? Or for ourselves that others are forced to live by because we
love them or they are important to us? As I became more and more conscious of
this, I realized my own set of rules that I may inadvertently impose on others
and started questioning them. Is it because of our needs, our expectations of
others? Is it because we feel we know it best based on our experience in life?
Why not let go and let people be
as they are? Why not accept people for who they are and respect their
perspective of things? Why not appreciate another point of view and evaluate
our lives and our expectations of things in this new light? Would this not make
things easier for us and for people around us? Or do you think it will further
complicate our already exciting lives? Is acceptance of each other necessarily be driven by how we want things to
be driven?
Most importantly should we not try
and give to the limit acceptable to us basis the needs of the other? And when
it crosses our acceptable level of tolerance (as per our rules), stop but
communicate why. Would that not help us have better happier times with people
around us?
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